At one point inn my life I was pretty darned obsessed with reading a book called “The non-runners guide to marathon running” or something like this. I WAS really into running at that point in my life, but I never managed to actually complete one. Maybe I will one day, maybe I won’t. The thing I took away from the book though was that when we have goals for the long term that we have to sometimes ease off a bit. We just have to focus on getting the everyday out of the way. We have to, as the writer of the book put it so eloquently, try easier.
It means being nice, sweet, and loving to ourselves when all we hear in our heads is how we haven’t been doing enough.
I think this summer back in Sweden was a great exercise in trying easier. I think I want to continue with it. I’ve spent so much of my life always trying harder, going an extra mile, pushing myself to give my all.
I’ve found I’m a happier person when I just take time to breathe and appreciate. I love yoga because it simultaneously feels like time for myself and time given to others (since I help clean). I love my new friends here because we mean something to each other. I have friends I care about of course, but now I have the time and space to focus on friends. It’s sort of a cultural thing here and sort of not. When you meet up with people it is planned out and that time is set aside just for the bunch of you. How is this different from the USA? Yeah, I am not too sure. Just when I was there, meeting up with friends always felt rushed, stressed and I had a hard time enjoying myself with them cause I was thinking about fifty billion other things.
Much love to Sweden.
Jag tror det jag hör, men vad är det jag hör?!?!
Ah, jag drar till Thailand för att träffa lite Göteborgare…
Ah, nääääeeeeeeee !!!
So grungerock was big in Sweden. Imagine that. I’ve found more of my people. :)
Had a great weekend hangin around Malmö and Falsterbo
having one of those days where its really hard to do anything except listen to music and think. poor tortured artist right? :-p at least i switched it from sadly beautiful songs to david bowie and lcd soundsystem. let’s get this day going!!!
So I’ve been putting more time into doing yoga each week lately. This is week 3. I help out at a really great studio in exchange for free yoga and happy times with lovely people. I really like the studio because its an open and heartfelt type of place. It doesn’t matter what language you speak, you are loved for who you are.
Today I ran into my Korean friend, Austin, at the yoga place. It was so cozy to clean the shower and congratulate one of the other girls who works there on getting a cool internship in Amsterdam (in Swedish :). Then Austin and I decided to go to Mormors Bageri to take a fika together to catch up. I told her about my new job, that my business was doing pretty well still, and about my breakup this past spring. She’s a bit older than me (40s or 50s) so she had some good things to say to me.
In turn I gave her some advice about starting up a business here in Sweden and told her I would bring her a pamphlet that I have at home on Friday for her.
Lol we even gabbed about some men that we both know and decided we have the same taste in guys. This makes me laugh and smile at the same time. Girltalk can be the best.
All this happened because I want to give back in some way and also because I made several good decisions that are best for myself. Do more yoga, help out, make new friends, strengthen old friendships and repeat :)
Thanks, universe. Thanks, God? Thanks, beautiful power that is in every living thing. Thanks, me.
i am forever in love with bob hund. julie saw thomas öberg in Malmö C the other day and I am super jelly.
Det låter ju irländsk i melodin!!!
So I went on a date with a Swede and it was really fun!!! I was hella nervous about it at first, but Im so glad I went. Confidence is boosted and I feel good about myself. We spoke Swedish for a good part, and then switched to English. It felt nice because it was my decision to do that, not his and not because he was uncomfortable with my Swedish. We also did the thing where he spoke in Swedish and I spoke in English. So we tried all sorts of communication haha.
I dunno if I’ll see him again, but Im glad I did this one time :)
The Futuro House was designed in 1968 by Finnish architect Matti Suuronen. It was commissioned as a “holiday house” or vacation home.
Espoo Museum of Modernart. Finland
Photo: Aika Felt Works
Sign. me up
A few new things since my last logging in.
I met up with some business colleagues (that sounds so formal) that took the Enterpreneur’s course with me, and I absolutely loved helping and talking with them. All three need some help with their Wordpress sites and it feels fun to be able to show them how to take care of it— or even take care of it for them in some cases :) It is good to feel needed, wanted, respected and even remembered by these folks. One of the peoplein the class gave me a book about branding which he picked up from a client because it reminded him of me. I thought it was a really nice gesture— and one that makes me feel more comfortable about staying here in Sweden. I want to be in a place where this is a way of being nice to other people.
The fact that 3 folks needed some Wordpress help gave me the idea to maybe hold a course for it at VentureLab or LiFT. Maybe I will investigate that further. I think it could be worth my time!
On the social front, Julie and I have been hanging out a lot. It has felt nice to simply be myself, to find out about another person who has recently moved here, and to just sort of chill + explore new places! This past week we went to Ystad and had fun exploring there in the hot, hot sun. The sun actually took a lot out of me, but we managed to cool down at Hamnscafeet which had an awesome lunch buffet. I never appreciated rödspätta like I did that day haha :)
I also got a group of folks together to go see Her at the Kulturmejeriet here in Lund. It was fun just to goof off, speak English and drink wine with lovely people. They want to go to Copenhagen this weekend, but I actually have a lot of work to do! Perhaps I’ll join up in the evening because everyone needs some fun now and again. OR— maybe Julie and I will do something creative together like T-shirt bleaching or being crafty (pyssla) at one of our places :) The world is full of coolness.
I also joined a DATING WEBSITE. This has made the free evenings more enjoyable thus far, but I am unsure if it is really for me or not. I would rather meet people in real life and feel some sort of chemistry. Then again, I kinda like this idea of chatting first and then possibly meeting. I haven’t dared to meet anyone in real life yet, but I guess it is a possibility. It might be a great excuse to travel around in Sweden some more anyway ;) It’s also a bit fun/exciting because Im chatting (typing) with these folks in Swedish. I know there are some wrong things here and there, but it’s helping me learn a bit more too! I guess that its only icing on the cake. :-p Sometimes I do wonder if people get turned off by multiple grammar mistakes. I think I might be if folks did that in excess in English. But no one’s freaked out about it yet— and I’ve been clear that I have only been here for two years. So I guess we’ll see where it goes!!! :D